…someone says they won’t write a letter for me?
It is important to note that sometimes, a potential recommender may decline to write on your behalf. They may feel they do not know you well enough, that they do not have enough time to do so, or that your record is not strong enough for admission to a given program. If that is the case, thank them for considering your request and consider a different recommender.
…someone asks me to draft my own letter?
A potential recommender may ask you to draft your own letter if they do not feel that they have sufficient time to do so. You should not write your own letter. However, you can provide additional materials to facilitate the process for them, hopefully making it easier for them to write the letter.
In a single document of 1-2 pages, you can put together the following material:
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A reminder of the program/opportunity you’re applying for and why you are pursuing it (how it aligns with your interests and goals)
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A brief summary of your strengths and experiences you are proud of and that relate to the application
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1-3 examples of projects, papers, or research you have done with that recommender, what you achieved in that work, and any positive feedback you received from them on that work at the time
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A summary of highlights from your resume that showcase skills or qualities that will be relevant to the current application
If, upon receiving this document, the recommender is still unable to write the letter for you, then they may not be the best fit for this particular application. Career Education advisors can help you decide whom else to ask to write in support of your application: simply book an advising appointment. Capable as you are, you don’t have to go it alone!